“Mummy, should I wear the pink skirt or black one?”
Me: “Which do you prefer?”
Whenever she ask for your opinion on something, please don’t just tell her to choose whatever suits her, engage her meaningfully, that’s what she want.
“I think I should wear the black one, even though I prefer the pink one because it’s my best color!”
Me: “Why didn’t you wear the pink one since it’s your favorite?”
“It is too short and the pop socks I usually wear with it is dirty”
Me: Oh, then you go for the.....
“Black one!” She answered satisfactorily.
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Science says an average human make up to 35,000 decisions per day.
....from simple ones like cloths to wear, what to eat to the serious ones at homes or in the office.
Yet, we sometimes don’t allow our children start learning this skills early, we make all the decisions for them,.....your child dare not say he/she isn’t wearing your choice of cloth:
“You must do as I say....” sometimes accompanied with “abara”
By the time they are teenagers, they become are and dance to the tune of every Tom, Dick and Harry!
They suffer “no self esteem” and easily engage in vices as a result of peer pressure.
In my ebook, “Helping Your Teens To Resist Sexual Pressure”, one of the ways I shared in the book on how build your child’s decision making skill is making it fun, see examples below:
Ask playful questions like:
“Would you rather go to the cinema or school a day in the week?(ask why, what possible consequences is associated with each alternative...etc)
“Would you prefer to raise a dog instead of a pig?”
“Would you rather travel by air or by sea?”
“If you were to choose a school, which would it be?”
From any one of the above, you probe further, asking more questions from their answers.
Allow them to choose and give reasons for choosing it.
Discuss the potential consequences in their responses and see if it changes their decisions.
Another way to build this very important skill is to involve them in decision making in the family, especially on matters concerning them, they should have a say.
As often as they practice the steps in the decision making, ....learning to weigh options, determine pros and cons before making an informed decision will not only be useful through out their teen years, also to adulthood.
Do you want a copy of my ebook on “Helping Your Teens To Resist Sexual”, click on the link below to order now:
Reading and practicing what is the book will not deliver on what it says, but will equip your teenagers against all other vices.
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