Are you a good role model to your child?

"Abused child and an indulged child shared a common destination of liability if there is no intervention" - Barrister Taiwo Akinlami. As much as so much has been said on proper/right parenting, especially with the 'no hitting or yelling', it isn't synonymous with indulging children. The abused child seldom have a 'rain-beaten-chicken-mentality' while the indulged or undisciplined child have an 'entitlement mentality'. Ignorance is not an excuse! To every right of the child, there is a corresponding responsibility! In child protection of which childhood preservation and protection is the goal, there are 5 basic needs of the child that must be met, they are; 1. SOMEONE TO BELIEVE, that is, a role model. As a caregiver, are you a good role model to your child? If your child grow up to be your replica, would you be happy, satisfied and beat your chest that you have done a good job? Are you not aware that whatever your child does(good or bad) is the report card of your parenting skills and abilities? You are the type that yell at others and your spouse at the slightest provocation and you scold your child when he/she does same with his peers! Is that one a good role model? You argue or fight with your spouse or others in the presence of your kids and you seem surprise when your child bully others! Are you for real? You instruct your child to tell a visitor you are not at home when the reverse is the case and you expect him/her not to be economical with the truth! You've got to be kidding me! You expect your child to be trust worthy when you never fulfil any promise made to anyone, not even your child! Choose comedy as a career if you haven't! Oh, according to you, "you weren't born with any spoon, not even with a plastic or wooden one" and all glory to God your child is born with a silver spoon, he/she must have everything needed and wanted, "I don't want my child to suffer the way I suffered!", how do you intend to curb his entitlement mentality and greed when he/she is all grown? Welcome to Wonderland! You give your children more of what YOU MAKE and give him/her none of what MADE YOU, yet, you expect him to appreciate the dignity of labour? How? You don't allow your children to participate in family discussion especially on matters that concerns them, you make decisions for them on all issues irrespective of how they feel and you expect your child to be compassionate or empathise with others? You are asking for the moon sir/ma! For your information, children build their confidence in participation! Your child dare not ask you "the why" behind any instruction and you expert him to be bold and take his stand against peer pressure or predators! Like seriously? (To be continued....) Thanks for your time and attention. Do have a productive week.