The dangers of controlling your chid...

No human has been given the capacity to effect positive change in another by using force or control.......God has given everyone the will to choose even at the expense of our eternal life! “Behold, I stand at the doors and knock, if any man hear My voice and open the door, I will come in and dine with him and he with Me” - Rev. 3:20. So when you bully your child to obeying all your rules by controlling, beating, yelling and all the forces in your arsenal, he/she might align until the day of emancipation- whenever he is out of your confines. He becomes an emotional wreck and live a pseudo identity because he has been subdued suppressed erased and not raise....one of these three things happen:(majority of us falls between 1 and 2) 1. He lives like a wounded lion, hurting everyone he meets, a bully by every standard. He/she has seen authority as controlling and subduing the less powerful. One of the reasons we have leaders who use their offices to cheat the masses, bosses intimidate their subordinates,....it’s evident all around us- lecturers abusing their students, religious leaders are not left out,...all sorts of brain washing and cajoling just because they have some level of authority. 2. He lives like a timid cornered rat who becomes a victim of abuse and bully. One of the reasons the masses cannot call out political appointees who wouldn’t live up to their mandates, we even make excuses for them and sing their praises to the high heavens when they do as a little as a tiny bit of what is expected of them....we have been subdued long enough that it has become our normal...hmmm. 3. He learns from his hurt, and seek to liberate himself and others who go through same experiences, (this percentage is very few, Majority of advocates falls in this category). Read about some human rights advocate around you, most of them has gone through one abuse of the other, bullied, threatened, hurt...depressed or suicidal at some point, found help and made up their mind to liberate others or prevent others from going through same. No child need to go through abuse or bullying, because not all is them would be fortunate to find help, just like the South African girl who committed suicide. My heart goes out to the family. How do you know you are raising a bully or a victim? ....to be continued.