Train the boy child too...

I witnessed a scenario one day in my children’s school when a father came to pick his son after the closing time. The teacher explained to the father that she noticed his son was laid back in his academics, doesn’t participate in class like before, took longer time to copy his notes and all....the man thanked the teacher and promised to look into it. On getting outside where he packed his car, the boy didn’t enter the car as fast as his father expected him, with the speed of light, he launched towards the boy and gave him two consecutive hard knock on his head,....followed by the usual tongue lashing.., typical of a Nigerian parent.. “You are too slow for my liking.....don’t you know you are a boy!....same thing your teacher just complained about you now, ...so everything she said is true,...ok, wait till we get home.....” it continues as he drove off,....forbidding the boy not to cry! “If I hear pim....” This act of hitting a child and at not allowing him express his emotions.....,I don’t understand it at all! You are still wondering why we have mean and callous men? Nadem! Allow your boy child show his emotions, avoid words like, “toughen up, you are a boy!” “Boys don’t cry”... Show empathy towards your boy’s feelings....speak his love language, fill his love tank...some parents believe it’s only the girl child that is “touchy touchy” so they rebuke their boy child who exhibit same, if your boy’s love language is predominantly touch and you aren’t there to support him, this can lead to emotional numbness. We must raise a boy child with a sense of responsibility, allow to do chores, indulging your boy child is the root ol cause of entitlement mentality which spans up to adulthood and by the time he is married, he becomes a disaster and liability to the wife and children. Teach them boundaries early, respect for the female body, starting with their sisters (if they have one...)protect and care for them, never to hit, respect for personal space and privacy....all these will empower them to the other gender equally anywhere they find themselves. Give equal age appropriate chores with their sisters, show no preference of one gender to the other, both in your actions and words. Allow him play any type of play as long as it isn’t harmful to him or anyone, no stereotypes please. What type of a man do you want your daughter to marry later in life? What would you want your future daughter in law to say about your son? Start raising such sons, begin with the end in mind. Do have a productive day Pix: The day was February 14, 2021, talking to glorious teens of The Kingsword Church on Purpose of relationship.