Understanding Your Parents (part 2)
"Your parents might not be perfect, but they are the most precious gift God has ever given you" - Unknown
Though your parents yell and nag, behind all the drama is a soft heart with unconditional love for you.
Please take note, people do what they do with the best they know and the resources at their disposal,
.....this isn't to excuse abuse in any way!
My point is, if your parents had known better, they would have done better!
Some of their actions is to protect you from making the mistakes they made or any other mistakes that can truncate your destiny.
Even though they have a terrible way of communicating this: they are the number one person who genuinely want you to succeed and be better than them!
The deepest love imaginable is the love of a mother and a father's love is unconditional!
God placed you in their care to nurture you!
Each time you are getting upset by their constant yelling, look beyond it and focus on the motive behind it.
....you can have a conversation with them about the part of their behavior you dislike.
Observe when they are in a happy mood,
"My mummy/daddy, I know that you love me and I love you too.
I know and appreciate all you have done and still doing for me..
I know the sacrifices you made to ensure I have good education, food and clothing....
You are my hero!
I cannot imagine life without you...
I might not have been performing up to your expectation, but please know that I am doing my best,....
...and I am committed to getting better.
It breaks my heart to see you get upset over what I did or didn't do....
You are a good person and I know it...
Can we talk about all your expectations from me ahead of time?........"
My point exactly is, try as much as possible to discuss all the issues bothering you with your parents.
If it's too much for you to say or the environment isn't conducive enough to have a conversation with them, put it into writing and place it where they would find it!
If after this, there is no change in their attitude towards you, look for a trusted family member or friend, the idea is to get someone who they admire and respect,....
Let him/her talk to your parents on your behalf,
...and commit to getting better and doing the right thing.
It will end in praise my dear.
With lots of love,
Aunty Hellen.
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